Positive discipline; what is behind this expression?

Positive discipline
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Positive discipline is an educational approach for parents, teachers, or anyone else who cares for children. Positive discipline teaches how to educate and support children towards adulthood with firmness and kindness. It is neither a permissive nor a punitive method, based on encouragement, with respect for the world of children and that of adults.
This method aims to make our children independent, responsible, and fulfilled adults.
Positive discipline; teaches us how to educate our children with firmness and benevolence; in the family or at school, and teaches us methods, where appropriate authority and encouragement will help children to develop their self-discipline, cooperation, and many other skills essential to their well-being in life.
When you are a parent, it is not always easy to stay calm in the face of your children’s reactions. When they systematically contest everything, you ask them to do, you will have to try to react differently.
Do not impose your ideas on them by force. You will have to learn to educate differently. It will be through a positive discipline association that you will be able to learn how to educate and discipline your child creatively.

1. Positive discipline approach

A positive discipline approach assumes that a child born with instinct, care, love and respect, and guidance can become a good, responsible, and successful when growing up. Positive discipline is a mixture of kindness, love, understanding, and protection.

2. What is positive discipline?

Positive discipline is:
Educate in firmness and kindness without having to choose between one and the other.
Find the right authority that children need to develop in cooperation and autonomy.
Enable children to acquire skills essential for life through a relationship based on trust and mutual respect.
Thus, positive discipline uses tools centered on the encouragement applied in family and school contexts. This innovative approach allows parents and teachers alike to apply a form of education that combines firmness, benevolence, and the desire to create and develop a sense of belonging that nourishes and brings life to the child.

3. What is positive discipline for?

Positive discipline allows you to raise a positive link with your children, to regain the satisfaction of being with your family and share good times together. And as the family life is also disagreements, conflicts, disputes, the Positive Discipline allows you to teach your children skills such as cooperation, autonomy, and sense of responsibility.

4. Positive discipline methods

There are different ways, but the concept remains the same method, it is to give your child unconditional love and provide him with the care that will increase his confidence and establish self-esteem. In a study conducted in Australia that included 26 schools to evaluate the effectiveness of the positive discipline program among primary school students, the results showed a decrease in the number of children who have behavior problems and a significant increase in self-reporting skills compared to children who did not participate in the program.

5. What are the main goals of positive discipline?

By creating a positive environment, you will;
– Protect your child from danger.
– Help your child to gain self-control.
– Assist your child to develop a sense of responsibility.
– Support in establishing values.

6. When is the best time to start?

Most experts note that the first three years of a child’s life are the best time to start due to their impact on your child’s development. In these preschooler years, your child develops his intellectual, emotional, and social abilities. He will learn to give and accept love, learn to be curious, and insist on learning and discovering strange things, and your child needs all of these attributes to build social relationships and lead a productive and happy life.

7. Positive parenting

A famous British specialist in child development says that “parenting does not always mean doing the right thing. Instead, they can live with the difficulties of life, make mistakes, feel anxious and lack happiness, but despite all this, they have a strong and firm belief that things will get better over time. They have created a bond and a positive relationship with their child so that they can live with all situations and with great confidence.”
To be positive, you need to trust yourself and understand your child. Positivity does not mean leniency, but there must be limits that the child should not cross.
A disciplined approach to positivity does not always mean looking for negatives but looking for ways to make things positive and learning to negotiate and persuade their children in more effective discipline.

Always remember that parenting is a difficult task, and since each child has his unique qualities, there is no one simplified method of education, and there is no right or wrong.
All the methods that parents choose to have their advantages and challenges. It is up to the parents to choose the method that will raise the child. With more love, kindness, and respect, the results will be amazing, and we must remember that the road is long and full of challenges and difficulties, and there may be many frustrating days, and there will also be the most beautiful and sweetest days.

8. What makes a discipline positive and effective?

8.1.Respect

Children should be able to respect the authority of their parents and the rights of others. If discipline is harsh and accompanied by insults, yelling, and humiliations, the child will have difficulty respecting or trusting his mother or father.

8.2.Consistency

A discipline that is not constant confuses children, regardless of their age. If the parents are not consistent in the way they apply a discipline, the child will have difficulty respecting them. Inconsistency, when sometimes giving in to crises, can seem to reward the child for undesirable behaviors and encourage him to repeat them.

8.3.Impartiality

The child must find the right discipline. The consequences of his actions must be linked to his behavior. If your child throws food on the ground, help him to pick up the mess. Make sure everything is clean before he can move on. Once done, the consequences are over.

8.4. You

As a parent, you have a unique link with your child. If you teach your child a discipline of respect, consistency, and impartiality, you will have lasting positive effects on your child.

9. Positive discipline strategies

Positive discipline strategies are practical alternatives to punishment and means of adopting the distinct personality that every educator aspires to.
These are practical and integrated steps that can be used in family life automatically and in normal conditions.

10. Some of positive discipline techniques

The American Child Care Association and the National Society for the Prevention of Cruelty to Children offer a set of tips and techniques for dealing with children in the context of positivity.

10.1.The value of play: Play is children’s work. Play is important for all aspects of child development, it is a natural way for children to learn, and is essential in forming a positive relationship between the child and parents.

10.2. Talk to your children and listen to them.

10.3. It is important that you look at your child, and touch him gently when communicating.

10.4. Try not to be negative with your child, avoid criticism and learn to praise your child when he behaves positively. Sure, talk to your child when he makes a mistake, but allow him to correct his mistake.

10.5. Be the first source of information for your child and encourage him to ask questions.
This will teach him to ask questions when he grows up, by answering your child’s questions honestly and openly, you can create a relationship built on mutual trust and respect.

10.6. Learn how children grow and learn about your child’s unique characteristics. And when it comes to your child, the real expert is you, estimate the privacy of your child and support your child’s interests and talents.

10.7. Try to spend time with each of your children every day.

10.8. Do not hesitate to praise the unique characteristics of your children.

Avoid comparing them, or calibrating them why they are not like someone else.

10.9. Count your family’s success. A set of rules and limits will help your child feel safe and prevent things from getting out of control.

To conclude;

When we think of discipline, it is very rare that the word “positive” comes to mind. However, discipline is positive for children’s development, even essential. It is through discipline and supervision that children find their bearings. Once they are stable, they can then develop safely. From an early age, children should be taught what is expected of them: the behaviors that are desirable and those which are less desirable.

From what was said above, can you know how things are at your place and what are the benefits that you have gained from it?

Originally published on Live Positively.